Why does mommy fill my day
With things I cannot do or say?
How am I supposed to grow
If all I hear is No! No! No!
These are the first four lines of a poem i wrote for the boys some months ago. It kinda goes on and lists the things i say no to and when i started putting those down i realized how often that word comes up when i talk to the kids. That’s not conversation…that is a negative sounding directive! And after all my attempts to avoid the constant Nos i find myself saying it all the time.
It creeps in quietly as you go along your way trying to be peaceful through toddler chaos…”don’t play with your food!”, “don’t dig your nose”, DON’T scratch your brother’s face!
No grabbing! No touching the hot iron! DO NOT throw your toys out of the window.
Don’t waste water, don’t tear the book, don’t pee in the living room!
The tiny little No slips in and gets to be a larger and larger part of one’s dialogue…
Anyway, writing the poem got me thinking about it and at least i am a little more aware of it now. Let’s hope that i use a little less of the No words from tomorrow!