The blues…and pinks


Who decided that blue was for boys and pink for girls? Nish came to me the other day with sa very serious look on his face. OK…time for some conversation of gravity i figured.
“why do you always get me brown or tan or navy blue pants?” he asked “my favorite color is purple…and pink”
“Sure” i replied. “The next time we pick up clothes I will certainly keep that in mind”
Next time was actually quite soon after that. I was at the mall with my cousin and since Mothercare had a sale I decided that I may as well pick up the pants. Needless to say, the boys section only had brown, khakhi, blue and believe it or not…white! I looked again…definitely no purple and absolutely no pink. The sales girl came over to help me. “I need purple shorts for my son” i told her. She looks amazed. “we have white if you like” she told me. No no purple is not white…and who buys white pants for little kids other washing machine and washing soap ad makers? “For boys we don’t keep pink and purple” she said…So i wandered over to the girls section. The shorts here were significantly shorter and hotter. But in addition to being pink, magenta and purple they all ended with s little frill and had some glittering floral embellishment. Now, nish may like pink and purple but I know he would not enjoy the fancy add ons..heck..he is into ‘fancy motor bikes and construction vehicles’. The glittering flowers would not impress him. “Anything without the frills and glittery flowers?” i asked. “No, this is for girls so it has to have these” Sure, now clothing lines have taken a call on what is appropriate dress and color for the different genders and never the twain shall meet?!
I walked out disappointed. Spotted a Pantaloons store in the mall and finally found a pair of beautiful purple shorts with no embellishments other than large purple buttons in the girls section. Immediately picked it up! And boy was Nish excited. He was super happy and promptly wore them the next day when we went to the botanical gardens for a flower show. he was certainly one of the bright happy flowers there!
Anyway, this just reinforced for me how closed we can get in our thinking…frills and flowers for girls and no pink and purple for boys. Just look at what is happening around us here…there are killings and war and rapes happening everywhere one looks..if wearing pink and purple gives our boys some more caring and empathy then lets flood the stores with these colors…we certainly dont need more ‘tough men’ than we already have.


About myfourboysandme

Mom - a word that defines me... I smell of oats, johnson's and home baked cookies I am pink, purple, green and orange and so is the floor my kids color on. Flour on my clothes and a brush in my pocket, my glasses bent out of shape and smudged with tiny fingerprints. I can't remember the date but i know almost 40 pictures books by heart. I wake up humming 'wheels on the bus'and i talk with my fingers and eyes and mouth. My bag carries band aids, napkins, wipes, crayons, papers, candy and sometimes my wallet. I know all the parks and very few of the restaurants in my neighborhood. Most of my shopping is diapers, books and paints My phd certificate lies in a roll, the frame now contains an abstract work of art by two year olds and i am prouder of that piece of paper. mom - a word that defines me!

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